I was invited out to screen at the Starz Filmcenter’s DocNight–hosted by local Film critic, Lisa Kennedy, last week on December 11.

The evening started off with the Denver film Society’s Keith Garcia taking me and Ms. Kennedy out to dinner. Over dinner, we talked about how I came to make this film. As we spoke of the need to balance family with work, Lisa said that she had returned to the Denver area, in part, because of family. And Keith has lived here, close to family, most of his life–except for a few stints in LA. Although neither were parents, I think they both related to the film’s themes of the tug between family and individual ambitions.

So many people came up to me after the Event. I feel so lucky to have the chance to experience the power of this thing that we have made–through these conversations. Several men made a point of telling me how much they liked –and learned from the film. As always, many people were surprised at the disparities in the Gallery and Museums between the number of works by women and by men.

One woman who had come with her grown daughter–told me how much this film meant to her. She had begun her adult life as an artist–but after becoming a mother, could no longer find the time or energy for the work. And yet, all four of her children had grown up to become artists! And she was now back in the studio. This is a story we hear often–and it is bittersweet. How amazingly wonderful to go back to one’s dream after raising a family–and yet, one wonders at the loss in professional development. Is there a loss–or has the nurturing experience deepened her work? She felt that her work had benefited. So, I wish her well in the other part of an artist’s life–getting the work “out” into the world.

So, thank you Starz and the Denver Film Society for such a warm reception. We look forward to screening the film again for a run in February–from February 20-26.

Thanks, Pam


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  1. Pam – thanks so much for leaving your comment on my blog. Sometimes I think I go on and on too much about the family, the juggle of work etc, on the blog instead of sticking to the subject of writing. but your comment and your film made me realize this is a valid topic of course. Early here in Santa Monica. I’ll read more of your blog later -where can I find your film?

    • Hello Barbara:

      Thanks for writing!

      I just spent an hour with Kochi–who is from Calcutta. She is the daughter of a woman needing to make a living as a prostitute since there are so few opportunities for uneducated women in India.

      Kochi was one of the children featured in my first Documentary– Born into Brothels–directed by Zana Briski and Ross Kaufman in 2004. This documentary has some of the same themes as Who Does She Think She IS? Both films deal with how art and caring can change the lives of even the most disenfranchised people.

      Anyway, Kochi is now sixteen and attending school here in the USA thanks to the money we raised through the film.

      Now why am I telling you about Kochi– she has had a very hard life, but stayed in school and she says “she will never marry” as it would be too hard to do the work she wants to do– run a School in Calcutta.

      So, this issue of women being able to care give and to do work they feel called to do, persists. It is the major reason women around the world are among the poorest of the poor. Care giving, nurturing the next generation does not pay.

      So, yes! Go on about mothering and writing and I will go on about expressing oneself as well as nurturing the people one loves. We desperately need STILL to have models of women not losing themselves to the work of “Love.”

      Sincerely, Pamela

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